attraction is about being curious

Last week, I shared a strategy for becoming an attractor rather than a chaser with you.

The point of doing this is to put yourself in a position of power: when you know yourself and what you stand for, it’s no longer about seeking a job. Instead, it’s about finding the opportunity that aligns with the person you are.

I asked for some responses about what it means to attract and not chase. Here are a few of the useful ones.

1. “If I were an attractor and not a chaser, I wouldn’t be afraid of asking for a higher salary when I get a job offer. I’d know my value well enough to turn down anything less.”
2. “I’d spend less time hunting for jobs on Indeed.com and more time being curious about opportunities in my life that I may not be appropriately engaging with.”
3. “Networking would change. Instead of using a networking conversation as a way to promote my desires and progress on my career change, I’d get curious about the other person. People love to talk about themselves. So I’d drop the notion of getting something from them and instead work on simply creating a relationship that might blossom into something great later on.”

Notice the change in position with all three responses?

Here’s the shift I’m noticing: attraction is about being curious. It’s about truly wanting to know another person or organization at a values level.

On the other hand, chasing is about self-promotion, being pushy, and networking to get more money or a new job.

You get to decide which one you want to be.