most people don't think about you, but some do

When I was 12, I wore a yellow sweatsuit to school.

The teachers and the students all made fun of it; they called me banana boy. I’m not sure why my mom dressed me in that sweatsuit, but I was probably a little too old to have my mom pick out my clothes.

I left the country right after that happened because my familiy moved to Egypt. I returned for high school a couple years later.

I thought perhaps that my old classmates would remember the banana boy thing, but my mom gave me some advice.

She said, “no one is thinking about that anymore. You remember it, because it happened to you. Everyone else is thinking about themselves.”

On the first day of 9th grade, I ran into a friend I hadn’t seen since the banana boy incident.

Immediately she said, “remember when you dressed up like a banana?”

It turns out… some people do think your embarrassing memories.

But you also don’t need to let it weigh on you.

If they’re thinking about your embarrassing memories, that’s on them.

Ruminating on embarrassing memories is a habit, and habits can control you or you can control your habits.

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